Well, when one said they're single..don't necessarily always meant that they're available you know! Sometimes people tend to define single just because they're not married yet but they're in a relationship though & these people always present themselves as single but not available..hahaha
I think it's kindda like a joke when people says things like that..well for once whether you're married or not if ever you're in some kind of relationship with your better half, can you please just said I'm not available! Lets don't make things complicated when there really aren't, shall we.
Let's celebrate, SINGLES! Who says you need a man to have a blast on February 14th..or whenever? (pssttt..there's time when I felt down on certain occasions but looking back now I reallize that I was just being silly..)
Many will ask, what I love about being single? Well..I'm quite a busy bee, I barely have time for myself or anything else for that matter. I appreciate being able to concentrate on my life & seeking opprtunities for my future without worry. Being single at my age is not something extraordinary, there're a lot of others who're way senior than me still enjoy being single. Besides I won't be able to pamper the so-called boyfriend as I barely have time to indulge myself..
Being single has also given me a deep awareness of who I am as a person, not someone defined by a relationship. The freedom is very empowering. For instance, if I want to blow a couple of hundred dollars at the salon or spa, that's my funeral & nobody is going to freak out about it. I do whatever I want, whenever I want without having to answer to someone.well, except my parents! hikhikkk
The Idea that single women at my age & above are miserable spinster is a myth. As I & many of the ladies that I know who are soloist, we're anything but unhappy. Owhhh ya! you all should know that I am the kind who always need to rush here & there, I'm known as the travelling butterfly among my friends. Dowhhh..whatever that means?!
I'm also not the kind who'll hopped from one realtionship to another. I don't like to play the dating games which I believe is not an activity for the faint-hearted. Although I've travel the world seen places, but, I'm kindda innocently shy when it comes to striking a conversation with somebody that I hardly know. Believe it or not? that's the fact dudes..
I prefer to take things slowly, get to know one another, being friends for as long as it takes me to know that person really well..may be if he plays his card right, I might surrender my heart one day! ngeeeee ;p
Being single expresses your individuality & confidence. It means that you're comfortable in your own skin & you can handle your own company. You know you're someone in your own right that you're more than just half a couple. 'Cos if people think of you as a half of something, that's insulting. I for once feel that I've a clearer self-identity. I must say being single gives me carte blanche to indulge myself.
Single ladies everywhere! Please forget about preying. If you're single you probably have one eye on the lookout for a new guy. So you'll keep on asking where to find one? The cliches are so true..you won't find a guy if you're looking, find an interest take up a hobby. Chances are, if you're on a man-hunt they'll all disappear, men can sense desperation at twenty paces. But..all girls are adamant about one thing though, meeting guy in clubs is a recipe for disaster.
Some will says they love dating & it's so much fun. Meeting new people is okay especially when one has self-confident, that's when they're not shy & clumsy like me. Some also enjoy going out to dinner with a new guy, especially when you know that you're going to have an interesting conversation, some good food & maybe a little flirtation. Well that's when one doesn't get nerves breakdown..how I wish I have that in me..hahahaha
Yes! I admit..we all love attention & the truth is when you're able to enjoy the flirtation meeting, dating actually gives you heaps of that. But, I've rather more jadded attitude.Yes, it can be entertaining but it can also be incredibly hard as you're put in an incredibly vulnerable state.
In a relationship, even if it's quite a negative or destructive one, you're familiar with each other. If you're constantly dating new people, you're forced to be on your best behaviour, trying to be funny & clever..not to be over-the-top, do the right thing, say the right word..it can be pretty stressful. You're also putting on your best face & letting the guy judge you..& if you've a few dates in a short time, you'll end up feeling very drained. Then when the dates aren't sucessful, it becomes terribly demoralizing & destroys your confidence.So..what do you all think about dating, is it bane or beautiful? Me? no thnx! Atleast not 'til I know he's the one..hahahahaha
The biggest difference I notice between being single & being in a relationship is that I laugh so much more when I am single. I laugh, I dance, I have fun & sometimes I overdo it, but I feel so alive. There's nothing better than a girls' night out. I love going around to my girlfriends' places & hanging out chatting, gossipping, laughing & we can talk almost about anything.
Going out to cafe, clubs & shopping is great, too. We, ladies are so funny with our merciless sense of humor..as a good girls' night out can be the best tonic in the world, there's nothing like a good laugh with your friends! I guess, I'm lucky in that as I've a great group of girlfriends & we all make time for each other. =)
I don't know with you people, but girls' night out has one unbreakable law..If anyone is out on the hunt, they're not welcome. Apart from anything else, it's insulting. You should be there to enjoy each other..if you want to come out with us, come because you want to talk to us, not because you're using us as an excuse to look for guys.
I had some dreadful nights out with girls who were on the prowl. They're dull because they're not even paying attention to what you say & if they do manage to snag one, they spend the rest of the night talking to him, while you're just like a spare part or worse, have to entertain his dodgy wing man. Well, that's not my idea of fun..don't know about you people though.
I think it's best to be true to yourself & allow yourself as much fun as you can get. Being single allows you to do all your favorite things all the time. Luxuriate in a steamy bath, read books & magazines, send emails to old friends, enjoy lots of culture, go out with friends & enjoy activites together..
Dear friends & ladies out there..Remember..when a guy comes along, make sure he deserves you & make sure he's worth giving up even an ounce of your freedom & independence for. Also do bear in mind, being single lets you be purely you, & that you may look back on these days as the best days of your life..
So there you have it, ain't nothing wrong being single..we can still enjoy ourselves, infact even much more fun & times you get to spend with your family & friends. Treasure it while it last 'cos once you found your better-half, that perfect companion..you'll never get that much chances to do so. So cherish yourself & those around you & everything you got while you still can. =)
Ladies, please understand..I don't mean that we should stay single forever but I was just pointing-out that being single is not all jill & dull. Life should be fun & full of all kind of love & hope!
Fellas, I gotta rest my head now, see you all agiain 'til the next time I got bored that is..hahahahaha
Keep yourself healthy & be safe at all time..don't worry be happy! bubbyeee>>>Ewey!!!
Saturday, 6 December 2008
Single & Fabulous
Spotlight on ME..the good, the bad & the ugly of being an inhabitant of Planet Single..hahaha
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really miss my single life..but now dh x single..uhuk uhuk..time single dulu muleh jek wat sesuke ati.nk suping nk gi holiday slambek jek.x yah pikir sal org len..skang nk wat mende kene pikir sal seme org.different sgt life mase single ngan x single..adek akan rase seme tu mase dh x single nanti..ekeke really2 miss my friends and my sweet memories with them.. :)