Why good boys make bad boyfriends?! I guess it's one of life's greatest mysteries. Why oh why do we let bad boys trample all over our hearts, while we crush good boys under our heels? *shrug & grin*
hurmmm..this may sound crazy but in most occasions I am hopelessly attracted to boys who do not play by the rules, they're presently my kind of boyfriend *giggles*.
In the sense that bad boys commanded respect, fear, admiration and awe. Oh sure, some boys complained about their immaturity, their irresponsibility, their complete disregard for societal norms and customs. But most of the time, we don't want what was right, in our hearts, we're all rebels without a cause..*lol*
Well, I'm not talking about bad boys in the criminal sense of the term, though. I've great respect for the law and its great purposes. I'm talking about that special type of guy who charts his own destiny without worrying about societal customs or traditions.
He lives by the law but not the rules, and that makes him attractive beyond the power of mere charisma or good looks. He is attractive in the deepest possible way, in a place where you give up your right to decide and succumb to your desire for the forbidden fruit. This is the kind of guy who refuses to kowtow to his boss just because he is his boss, or his father just because he is his father.
He is a guy who flirts shamelessly and trades kisses with anyone who cares to barter. He is a guy whose lust for life is exceeded only by his lust for independence. I know I'm not alone. Practically any girl who has had the pleasure of dating a bad boy will tell you that no good boy can give you the same feeling of being hopelessly in love.*cheeky giggles*
Oh sure, I like good boys well enough, they're polite and stable and gentlemanly and all that. But when I fall in love, I want it to be helpless abandon, a dizzying ride of highs and lows over an ocean of heart-bursting happiness and heart-breaking misery. That is the kind of love that you remember. That is the kind of guy you never forget. *lol*
Well, I believe the reason good boys lose out when it comes to love is that they're simply put, boring. I think that good boys are the rational choice for women; the logical option. Thus if we made our decisions with our minds instead of our hearts, I have no doubt that we'd choose a good boy every single time. But we don't, don't we? Our hearts say "love the bad boy" and we listen, all the while with our minds telling us to stay away from him!
Most spinsters decide to settle for good boys because they make a decision with their minds, not their hearts. Parents arrange marriages with good boys because they're thinking with their minds, not their hearts. A calculating gold-digger will marry a wealthy good boy because she is thinking with her mind, not her heart.
In every situation where a decision is reached by rational thought instead of emotional impulse, the good guys win. But if it is a question of a passionate, love, the bad boys win every time. Strange isn't it?
Between command and conquer, maybe it has something to do with women inherent need to control (read:mother) the men they date. Good boys being good boys, they simply acquiesce to the demands of their girlfriends all too easily, making the relationship infuriatingly dull. Without the occasional clash of wills, there is little to keep the girl interested in the guy and eventually, she moves on to more exciting pastures. Well, that's only in my opinions though..*giggles*
For me, bad boys present a challenge to our innate need to nurture. It's because bad boys are so resistant to any kind of manipulation, they're uniquely attractive to us..and very sexy! Good boys are simply too easy. *lol*
I, for one, agree. Being with a rebel can be quite taxing after a while. Bad boys want to dominate girls, too. They want to conquer us, but not in the ways one might think. Bad boys do not force themselves upon us, emotionally or physically. They do not demand to be loved and served. They do not need too. They just expect it, and we willingly submit. Bad boys charm their ways into our hearts and seize the walls that protect our innermost desires. They win us over and then they enslave us. We become thralls to their every want and need, servants to pander to their every desire..and loving every bit of it. *lol* (ya ryte!!! Like hell it is..hahahahaha)
Bad boy egos can be a problem, though. Bruise them, and they may withhold in order to punish you. They do not do this intentionally. It's just that when their egos are hurt, they become less eager to please. They retreat into their shells and appear selfish, when in fact they are merely soothing their poor, shattered egos. It takes a lot of patience to humour them during these periods before they return to peak performance and are able to give us what we love so much.(damn!!! hahahaha)
Good boys never forget your birthday, always remember the flowers on valentine's day and love to recite the words to special songs (some commit the grave sin of actually trying to sing the words, but thankfully, they're few and far in between) *lol*. They even buy your romantic dinners, they talk about children and they save for the future. There is really no good reason why good boys should end up last..and yet, they do.
Luckily, bad boys don't forget anniversaries or flowers, either. But they're also not so easily swept away by society's ideological precedents, so they do refuse to buy flowers. They're not satisfied with merely reciting the words to someone else's love song, they prefer to write their own songs with their own words, amateur though they be. (geezzz..freakingly sexy!!! hahahaha)
They do not buy into romantic dinners, they avoid the subject of children as a major taboo, and they invariably spend everything they earn without a thought for the future. There is really no good reason why bad boys should come in first..and yet, they do. (freaking scary aite! *lol*)
If it came to a question between right or wrong, I would be hard-pressed to decide which would be which. For better or worse, bad boys clearly make better boyfriends. But, much as I hate to admit it, I think good guys probably make better husbands.
Bad boys are exciting to be with and a reminder to ourselves that we alone hold the keys to our destinies. But with such tempestuous relationships are great when you're young. As I cannot imagine keeping up with that kind of adrenaline-laced loving when I'm older. I would want someone steady, predictable and pliable for the long run.
But..bad boys do not remain bad boys forever. Once the rebel within is quelled, they often turn out to be very staid, responsible men. I for once will probably settle down one day, and I'll want to do so with a good boy. I guess that will be a conscious, rational decision. But until then, I'll follow my heart into bad boys' traps and have no regrets.
But wouldn't it be nice if our bad boy kind of boyfriend end up settling to be our good boy material type husband. I mean perhaps he's once a truanting, partying, job-hopping lothario who warred with his parents and teachers and etc. Then over the years, his frenetic lust for life and disorder is been replace by a calm indifference towards authority and a patient disdain for rules. But what's important is that he'll stay a bad boy at heart. Most probably he'll earns twice as much as most good boys his age, and twice as happy, too.
Oh yes, bad boys make excellent boyfriends and they're damn more romantic! But don't dump your good chump, just yet. *cheeky grin*
hurmmm..this may sound crazy but in most occasions I am hopelessly attracted to boys who do not play by the rules, they're presently my kind of boyfriend *giggles*.
In the sense that bad boys commanded respect, fear, admiration and awe. Oh sure, some boys complained about their immaturity, their irresponsibility, their complete disregard for societal norms and customs. But most of the time, we don't want what was right, in our hearts, we're all rebels without a cause..*lol*
Well, I'm not talking about bad boys in the criminal sense of the term, though. I've great respect for the law and its great purposes. I'm talking about that special type of guy who charts his own destiny without worrying about societal customs or traditions.
He lives by the law but not the rules, and that makes him attractive beyond the power of mere charisma or good looks. He is attractive in the deepest possible way, in a place where you give up your right to decide and succumb to your desire for the forbidden fruit. This is the kind of guy who refuses to kowtow to his boss just because he is his boss, or his father just because he is his father.
He is a guy who flirts shamelessly and trades kisses with anyone who cares to barter. He is a guy whose lust for life is exceeded only by his lust for independence. I know I'm not alone. Practically any girl who has had the pleasure of dating a bad boy will tell you that no good boy can give you the same feeling of being hopelessly in love.*cheeky giggles*
Oh sure, I like good boys well enough, they're polite and stable and gentlemanly and all that. But when I fall in love, I want it to be helpless abandon, a dizzying ride of highs and lows over an ocean of heart-bursting happiness and heart-breaking misery. That is the kind of love that you remember. That is the kind of guy you never forget. *lol*
Well, I believe the reason good boys lose out when it comes to love is that they're simply put, boring. I think that good boys are the rational choice for women; the logical option. Thus if we made our decisions with our minds instead of our hearts, I have no doubt that we'd choose a good boy every single time. But we don't, don't we? Our hearts say "love the bad boy" and we listen, all the while with our minds telling us to stay away from him!
Most spinsters decide to settle for good boys because they make a decision with their minds, not their hearts. Parents arrange marriages with good boys because they're thinking with their minds, not their hearts. A calculating gold-digger will marry a wealthy good boy because she is thinking with her mind, not her heart.
In every situation where a decision is reached by rational thought instead of emotional impulse, the good guys win. But if it is a question of a passionate, love, the bad boys win every time. Strange isn't it?
Between command and conquer, maybe it has something to do with women inherent need to control (read:mother) the men they date. Good boys being good boys, they simply acquiesce to the demands of their girlfriends all too easily, making the relationship infuriatingly dull. Without the occasional clash of wills, there is little to keep the girl interested in the guy and eventually, she moves on to more exciting pastures. Well, that's only in my opinions though..*giggles*
For me, bad boys present a challenge to our innate need to nurture. It's because bad boys are so resistant to any kind of manipulation, they're uniquely attractive to us..and very sexy! Good boys are simply too easy. *lol*
I, for one, agree. Being with a rebel can be quite taxing after a while. Bad boys want to dominate girls, too. They want to conquer us, but not in the ways one might think. Bad boys do not force themselves upon us, emotionally or physically. They do not demand to be loved and served. They do not need too. They just expect it, and we willingly submit. Bad boys charm their ways into our hearts and seize the walls that protect our innermost desires. They win us over and then they enslave us. We become thralls to their every want and need, servants to pander to their every desire..and loving every bit of it. *lol* (ya ryte!!! Like hell it is..hahahahaha)
Bad boy egos can be a problem, though. Bruise them, and they may withhold in order to punish you. They do not do this intentionally. It's just that when their egos are hurt, they become less eager to please. They retreat into their shells and appear selfish, when in fact they are merely soothing their poor, shattered egos. It takes a lot of patience to humour them during these periods before they return to peak performance and are able to give us what we love so much.(damn!!! hahahaha)
Good boys never forget your birthday, always remember the flowers on valentine's day and love to recite the words to special songs (some commit the grave sin of actually trying to sing the words, but thankfully, they're few and far in between) *lol*. They even buy your romantic dinners, they talk about children and they save for the future. There is really no good reason why good boys should end up last..and yet, they do.
Luckily, bad boys don't forget anniversaries or flowers, either. But they're also not so easily swept away by society's ideological precedents, so they do refuse to buy flowers. They're not satisfied with merely reciting the words to someone else's love song, they prefer to write their own songs with their own words, amateur though they be. (geezzz..freakingly sexy!!! hahahaha)
They do not buy into romantic dinners, they avoid the subject of children as a major taboo, and they invariably spend everything they earn without a thought for the future. There is really no good reason why bad boys should come in first..and yet, they do. (freaking scary aite! *lol*)
If it came to a question between right or wrong, I would be hard-pressed to decide which would be which. For better or worse, bad boys clearly make better boyfriends. But, much as I hate to admit it, I think good guys probably make better husbands.
Bad boys are exciting to be with and a reminder to ourselves that we alone hold the keys to our destinies. But with such tempestuous relationships are great when you're young. As I cannot imagine keeping up with that kind of adrenaline-laced loving when I'm older. I would want someone steady, predictable and pliable for the long run.
But..bad boys do not remain bad boys forever. Once the rebel within is quelled, they often turn out to be very staid, responsible men. I for once will probably settle down one day, and I'll want to do so with a good boy. I guess that will be a conscious, rational decision. But until then, I'll follow my heart into bad boys' traps and have no regrets.
But wouldn't it be nice if our bad boy kind of boyfriend end up settling to be our good boy material type husband. I mean perhaps he's once a truanting, partying, job-hopping lothario who warred with his parents and teachers and etc. Then over the years, his frenetic lust for life and disorder is been replace by a calm indifference towards authority and a patient disdain for rules. But what's important is that he'll stay a bad boy at heart. Most probably he'll earns twice as much as most good boys his age, and twice as happy, too.
Oh yes, bad boys make excellent boyfriends and they're damn more romantic! But don't dump your good chump, just yet. *cheeky grin*
Of course those are merely my opinions over the matter..so it's really up to individuals to decide what's good and which kind is their preference. For what it's worth, may all of us are blessed with the best throughout our lives. Amen!
Folks..Live by Faith not by sight. Work with smiles not with sighs. Love sincerely not partially..so you'll be happy and never be lonely..God Bless! Take care and enjoy life! Toodles>>>EwEy!!!
Folks..Live by Faith not by sight. Work with smiles not with sighs. Love sincerely not partially..so you'll be happy and never be lonely..God Bless! Take care and enjoy life! Toodles>>>EwEy!!!
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