Tips for Life..Be Happy!

One Step at a time.. We live & we learn.. Have faith cos' it'll makes you stronger!

Few thoughts to get through that maze called LIFE - Nothing is Impossible..if you try! well if after you tried hard, still don't go the way you want it to, than that's when you know it's not meant to be.. at least you've tried.. cos' regret can be harsh for life if one doesn't know how to handle..

Do ignore the opinion of others. We're often worried what others think of us that we create problems where there are actually none. By learning not to place so much emphasis on the opinions of others will reduce your stress levels considerably.

After all, your toughest critic is none other than your own self. Unless you're a movie star, no one really pays that much attention to what size of jeans you wear, how much your handbag costs or what car you drive anyway. And if someone were that critical of you, would you really want them as your friend?

I beleived that even grown-ups need to have fun & play. Most of us tend to grow up & get past the habit of having fun life. Please make it a point to rediscover your fun, lighthearted side. Like they say, all work & no play makes jill & dull.. not to mention stressed & neurotic girl. So go on, go out & play! ain't nothing wrong with that!

Ladies! Please don't be afraid to ask for what you want. I know, not asking for what we want is a girl thing. We imply , we infer, we suggest, rather than instruct. Whether it's the little things such as asking our love one for a little more attention or asking the boss for a raise, the fear of rejection & creating conflict means keeping us in the norm.

Even if your motto is que sera sera & you're happy to just let things be, consider speaking up once in a while. The more you ask, the higher the chances you will be refused. But if you don't ask at all, you'll never give others a chance to agree.

Exercise is not a dirty word. I'm sure you all know exercise is good for you. It helps you to release stress, elevates mood enhancing endorphins & boost your confidence. The trouble with us, ladies.. most of us never get into the habit of getting regular exercise. With the masochistic mantra "No Pain, No Gain" we associate fitness with, is it any wonder why so many of us choose to get our workouts from refrigerator door opening?

The key is to find an activity that you really enjoy & can't wait to do as often as you can. So take a leaf of the guy's book & make it a social activity. Dust off that old squash racquet, sign up for kickboxing or yoga lessons or even get your hands on a mountain bike, paint ball games or anything at all.. do what you love & get out there with your friends. You'll regain your fat burning muscle, kick start your metabolism & sculpt a sexier silhoutte. Now, how's that for a bonus?

Always put yourself first.. However, most of the time we believe that self-sacrifice is the key to a harmonious & prosperous life. Well, I don't mean that you need to throw in the towel & abandon anything else for a year-long finding-yourself trek through himalays. Take time out, even something so simple as taking a yoga class once a week can de-stress & helps you regain a sense of self-worth. Remember, loving yourself is the first step to giving love to everyone around you. Just don't love yourself too much OK! cos' I'm pretty sure that you don't want others to be disgusted wit you, right? hehehe

Learnin to let go is very important in life.. A long memory is both a blessing & a curse to us, ladies. Long after the fact, we can recall with excruciating detail events that are better off forgotten. Hanging on to past wrongs just creates conflict & anger in your mind. C'mon it's silly to spend your twilight years bearing a grudge at somebody for an arguement that you barely remember. When you learn to let go, to forgive & forget, I'm seriously telling you this..you can boost your inner serenity, sense of well-being & a peace of mind too

Here's an example of the common thing happend in our daily life, having a bad haircut.. well smile! cos' there is a brighter side of it. Okay, so it's no fun to walk around with a bad haircut.. but sometimes, you need to practice laughing at yourself.. sounds crazy? naaa, I do that most of the time especially when I realised I've done something silly..muehehehe

You can find original & alternative ways to wearing your hair. Well, you never know, you might stumble on a new look that suits you.. & maybe just maybe somebody might praise you for your new style. hey! you never know when you get lucky, you know..hehehe

Now you know that the stylist you've been dying to try out, the one who's responsible for giving you this mop, is not for you after all.. girlfriends, please! Leave & learn.

At least, you've got hair. Imagine all the bald people out there who would kill to have hair, badly cut or not! psssttt..sometimes, I do find bald guy to be sexy & hot..ahakz

Then there's this spontaneity issue..seriously you need to be spontaneous in your life, trust me it'll make your life interestingly happy & make you feel a lot better!

Please try not to get so entrenched in a routine that you forget to be spontaneous. for instance.. when a friend calls you up for a spur of the moment shopping trip, or a quick bite around the corner, say yes instead of using chores as an excuse.

Life shouldn't be about rules & straight line. It'll only makes your life dull & plain boring. Let go & live already, will you!!!

Ohh one more thing before I go, Compassion.. yeahhh, you need to have compassion in your life. Otherwise your life is miserably lonely.. empty! you wouldn't want that to happen, would you?

I honestly think empathy is the most important sentiment. The ability to feel what others going through & understand how difficult it may be, keep us from becoming selfish & self-centred. Empathy gives us a reason to reach out to others. No man is an island, right?

Between friendships.. Trust, honesty, understanding, respect, compassion & love.. yup! for me those are the most important things what friendship is all about. Be able to confront your friend rather than talking behind their back.. it's truly unacceptable. If you have doubt & confuse, ask them - don't try to figure it out! cos' most of the time it'll lead to a misunderstanding & disbelieve.. speak out, compromise, listen, understand, advise.. never rush to conclusion or simply point your fingers cos' there's no use regreting later & usually the price to pay is very high!

Whatever it is try to forgive & forget.. when you can & especially when presented with good excuses explanation, please try to be a good listener..then evaluate. Hey! nobodys' perfect, remember?

Love & Friendship is a gift, not an obligation..always trust the person you love & who are dear to you..follow your heart. Then again, the heart is at the centre of our chest but it beats at the left side.. So I guess that's the reason why the heart isn't always right.

Never let your heart rule! Weddings, romantic movies & a sweet gesture from a significant other,they all serves to turn us to mush. Likewise, after an arguement with a loved one or when the bos reprimands us for a mistake, our stress level go sky high & our emotions are deeply affected.

Though we accuse the men in our lives of being insensitive, their resilience to upsetting & emotional events is something we can learn from. Having thicker skin helps you, for instance, to keep a stiff upper lip when people spread rumours about you, or to stay calm & confident when a road bully threatens you.

Please think things through with a clear head before you let your emotions rule your actions. Though men don't have all the answers, we can borrow from the masculine repertoire to observe secrets of fulfillment that us, ladies don't always get. However, being happy is a state of mind that only you can define. If we can learn that happiness is in our own hands, not dictate by others, that is a big step in the direction of true inner happiness.

The only way we're gonna achieve what's the best for us in life..is not to rush, but.. to Take One Step A Time.. Happiness is not something you postpone for the future, but it's something you design for the present!

Okay folks! that's it for today.. & remember we're never so happy nor so unhappy, as we suppose ourselves to be! So smile & take care of yourself at all time aite!

bubbyeee! >>> eWeY!!!